Blog: Reflections, Parenting

Manny Becerra as a child

December 2015

As 2015 nears an end, I'm sitting here alongside my wonderful daughter, Nina, reflecting on the past 12-months and the future; specifically, on her - Nina and on parenting. Wow! She just completed her 3-month birth-a-versary the other day, and has grown so much, in various ways, since her first 3-weeks!

Doing the best we can

Each day, I take with strides, reflecting on what I can do to be a better parent than the day before knowing that no parent is perfect, we can only do our best. I feel fortunate to have been modeled by my own parents and extended family an abundance of love, respect, discipline, self-reflection, a sense of community, and compassion toward one another, including, toward one's own self. This is what I keep in mind-and-heart each and every day so I can model the same to my own kiddo and the world around me.

Each day, I take with strides, reflecting on what I can do to be a better parent than the day before knowing that no parent is perfect, we can only do our best.

Nina looking toward her papa (Manny)
Nina holding her papa (Manny) looking back toward the world (you!)

Hopes

As a parent, one of my hopes is to instill in Nina the ability to be and remain resilient, kind, compassionate, and a critical thinker. To also provide opportunities to experience joy, meaningful purpose, and gratitude; including, finding an authentic relationship within herself. No amount of money can buy these things, although, I am aware it plays a part in everyone's lives, directly and indirectly. Given that, I believe we're all born with what we generally identify as what it means to be kind and compassionate. Through various life experiences, however, we can either be reinforced that these traits are of value, or not, within our immediate community.

One of my hopes is to instill in Nina the ability to be and remain resilient, kind, compassionate, and a critical thinker. To also provide opportunities to experience joy, meaningful purpose, and gratitude as my parents and family did with me.

Nina showing off her new clothes she got for Christmas from her papa (Manny)
Nina looking up, head-on, with curiosity and joy

Leading by example

Through modeled behavior, and using my voice and actions to be a source of support and inspiration — as my parents and family did with me — I plan to continue to do the same with Nina: lead by example and provide her with various opportunities and diverse experiences to learn and grow — to experience life in its fullest.

She's already a kind and peaceful spirit, and my hope is that, this light of hers is something that will persist throughout her entire journey, long after I've passed, which I also hope is not for a very long time from now so I can be a part of Nina's growth and life celebrations as they unfold.

Through modeled behavior, and using my voice and actions to be a source of support and inspiration, I plan to continue to do the same with Nina: lead by example and provide her with various opportunities and diverse experiences to learn and grow — to experience life in its fullest.

Reusable diapers

On a different but related note, washable, reusable diapers were one of the best things I purchased this year! They're great all-around, and better for our environment. Are you a parent: new, coming-up, or a "seasoned" one? What reflections or advise do you have on parenting?

Here's to a wonderful end to 2015, and a great start to 2016 to everyone — parent or not! 🎉

Manny


I have a passion and successful track-record for creating usable, online, experiences with a focus on and deep appreciation for web standards, modularity, education, accessibility, and inclusion. I build and lead happy, productive and empathetic cross-functional teams within a continuous learning culture. I am a father, speaker, advisor, life-long learner, community builder, advocate and a Human Being. Learn more.